2021.09.17 17:42 FarthestCough Moods are reflected in the music I listen to
You must know before I start that my musical tastes are quite eclectic.
For example, yesterday I was in a proper hopeless downer (getting out the wrong side of the bed is all too real), so I stormed off to work blasting Cannibal Corpse. Today is Friday, I felt brighter & happier, so I played my 80's/90's playlist I put together. So, this morning, I was blasting out The Right Stuff by New Kids on the Block.
Occasionally I'll have a 'listen to 50's jazz whilst doing the dishes' day.
Moods are strange things. I sometimes wonder whether I have more than one personality, but I think moods can create different feelings & create different needs. Angry, sad, upbeat, retro or sometimes a bit of white noise to block out the world.
Though, I still won't touch opera with a very long stick.
Music most certainly gets me through though.
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2021.09.17 17:42 nolimit878787 Trials of Iyo - bonus objective
2021.09.17 17:42 PromptComprehensive8 FACT: Retail is bigger... they can try to scare us... HRF'd
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2021.09.17 17:42 TrussBus PPP Dynasty
2021.09.17 17:42 naturalenergyy Fumez is mocking it 😂
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2021.09.17 17:42 Prestigious_Bad9366 Toda a placa tem um história 6
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2021.09.17 17:42 alightishere Found therapists social media & upset about findings, what to do?
putting this here aswell bc i know it is long - the TLDR: found therapists personal social media basically by accident, saw something upsetting, scared, don't know what to do or how to feel...?
a long time ago my therapist revealed to me something about themselves that meant that, if i wanted to, i could use that to find them online - even their personal, non professional stuff online. i dont think they thought anything of it, and probably did not realise what it could mean in terms of their online things (like i think maybe they just forgot/didnt make the link to that?). i never thought about it or did anything with it for a long long time. over the years occasionally the urge to use that info to find their social media came along SUPER occasionally. it passed easily as i knew it was just transference and was momentary as i did/do not really want to know more about them - i didnt want to break the therapeutic veil.
more recently i became interested in a (very low key, like a business sort of) public/business figure they were also interested in. i came across this business independently from my therapist/therapy just naturally through my interests etc. in therapy when we were talking about this interest as it related to my life, my therapist mentioned this business - therapist shares this interest. anyway, one day i was scrolling on this business' page and it hovered over the 'like' symbol on one of their photos. as you might know when you do this on facebook sometimes a list of people who have already 'liked' the photo comes up. and in that list was my therapist. because of the info i knew from that very long time ago, i instantly knew it was their personal page and had a minor freak out.
i left it for a few days and decided 'i'm still fine, i dont want to know or feel any urges, i will just let it go." but i also felt afraid i would one day soon give in to my attachment and want to look at their profile. especially if i accidentally see their name again on this public business page. i wanted to protect myself and my therapist from that possibility, so i came up with the idea of just blocking my therapists' profile and moving on with life.
i knew i would have to go to their page to press 'block' but i figured i would just inevitably have to see a brief second of their profile picture and just not look at anything else at all - i felt strong and like it was going to be fine and done and i could move on. in hindsight i realized i should have got a friend to do it or something but i just didn't think of that idea at the time. unfortunately at the very very top of their feed they had posted something that upset me. it is a current issue view point that we differ on, and it's actually something we both already knew we had opposing views on, and i did not mind that we do. and they did not mention it/seem to mind either. i'm not upset that we have different views.
the post i saw was about people who have that opposing view to my therapists (i.e.people such as myself) and it was completely judgmental, mocking and quite unkind to that group of people. it wasn't just a view of simple disagreement or opposing thoughts, it was mockery and also just very negative 'energy' (for lack of a better word) in the language and imagery. There was a meme that was sarcastically mocking, and then their own angry emotionally charged writing. The nature of the meme was the equivalent of "everyone who likes dogs (that's my attempt of an example of generalizing about a group of people) are complete idiots (unintelligent) and self serving" to me this is quite cruel.. the meme and their words were full of anger and unkindness and almost vitriol. as one of those all the same, terrible idiots, who are apparently deserving of mockery, i felt hurt. on top of my more personal feeling of hurt, i was just upset that they could or would be like that towards others. i feel that taking issues that are already quite sensitive or polarizing by their nature and adding making fun of those groups of people, and adding extreme judgement or negativity, is just so uncalled for and very damaging for humanity. it makes me sad in general when we hurt each other in this way instead of seeking understanding and empathy, or at minimum like, basic just tolerance and not abusing each other verbally or in any other ways. to find that my therapist obviously thinks that behavior is fine is very upsetting.
i guess their post is probably being fed by strong emotions and they are probably projecting and lashing out at the world as we all do when we are feeling upset or unsafe or something. i can almost forgive and accept their being a real human with real flaws and emotions. that is what is really going on perhaps. what upsets me is the idea that as one of those people this is how they really feel about me. that they could think this of me. to my face they have always told me i am intelligent and not a terrible person at all. yet apparently all of my kind are.
maybe they dont think their view is impacting their work with me, but how can it not be if you are THIS emotionally charged and thinking these thoughts about people like me? aren't therapists supposed to see the countertransference (like, judgement, projection, trigger, however it expresses itself) and take that to their own healing and work through it, so they can return to and maintain a truly nonjudgmental connection with their clients? though it is not the same, one of my own jobs involves having to deal with clients and holding a kind of non judgmental view and if i had emotions this strong about a client's kind of social group (or something akin) i would do everything i could to clear it to ensure my objectivity. that seems like it would be the healthiest thing? and very needed.
im also upset because they very recently had been teaching me - through therapy - all about the need to allow disagreement with other people! they had taught me how we can be safe to disagree with each other, we do not need to attack, and we do not need to lash out emotionally toward those who are different/disagreeing with us. - due to past trauma i had previously held unhealthy pattern that opposing views/disagreeing = i'm unsafe = i would get angry and attack or punish others with my emotions in a way. since we worked on this i have improved with that pattern and no longer do that to people and dont get angry or judgmental anymore. i was so grateful for that advice and it changed my life and changed me and made me more available to love others and to finally resolve this anger. now, with people on their 'side' of this issue,or any other group of people, i would never support or post content that is making harsh fun of them, even if i strongly disagree with them. i accept that others are different and deserving of respect. i see how important it is to not generalize or presume and to not attack. to me it seems my therapist is doing exactly what they told me not to do. they are judging and emotion-ing at people/the world because they dont like their opposing view. i feel confused and betrayed by that contradiction.
whilst they shouldnt have to be perfect, if you're going to do this job and do it authentically, dont you have to walk your talk? maybe i mean you just inevitably need to hold yourself to a high standard because of just how it works - like, how can you truly heal/teach what you havent healed in yourself yet (if you have blindspots psychologically you cant see clearly)? and, what about the need for objectivity toward clients?
i feel really afraid of bringing this up because of their clearly strong emotions. generally they have been really amazing with all transference/countertransference ruptures and repairs etc and we have a very strong therapeutic alliance. but this scares me a lot. what if they are not yet capable of handling and healing their countertransference in this? and then react from that, instead of respond with care and professionalism? what if they just hide their true reaction from me and dont want to work through the issue? what if they blame me for seeing their profile? we have worked together for many years, i do not want to lose them. for me if i knew they would respond appropriately, i would want to sort through this, and i think maybe it could bring us closer eventually. but im scared.
as a therapist, what do you think? how would you react or deal with this situation? what should I do?
i really wish they had not told me that piece of information years ago. whilst i take responsibility that maybe i could have somehow done the blocking thing better, i feel like giving me that information with all the attachment issues they know i have, was a bit like putting candy in front of a kid and saying 'dont eat this delicious candy'. i'm the vulnerable one who is inevitably (due to my life experience and human psychology) going to have urges to eat the candy. it is my responsibility if i do eat it but i wish you the wiser adult hadn't put it there in my face?? if you get my analogy.
TLDR; found therapists personal social media basically by accident, saw something upsetting, scared, don't know what to do or how to feel...?
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2021.09.17 17:42 florezedgar94 There’s an artist who I just discovered, who’s killing it right now: Jordi Up Late. It’s an inmersive experience! I’ve been following her for a bit now and she’s actually got a new one called TLQ. IT’s kinda a mix of Kaytranada, Banks and Kali Uchis - if you like that sort of a thing. Check it here.
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2021.09.17 17:42 liberalkatolik bizim maçlar yine iptal olmuş
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2021.09.17 17:42 FoxOneOne Zero Two looks different today. (Bberba on pixiv)
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2021.09.17 17:42 tchoeo "I'll high five you all"
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2021.09.17 17:42 niuz-bot Şeful Gazprom avertizează că preţurile gazelor în Europa ar putea creşte şi mai mult - [Articole][Economie]
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2021.09.17 17:42 Carlosnp99 Cultivation manhwa about building an ecosystem in a dantian
2021.09.17 17:42 Biaj53 Webinar-resource Dr Marty Ross
2021.09.17 17:42 thebitcoinpartybot europe puts €150 billion into blockchain, among other things, but calls crypto a sign of risky behavior (text in the comments)
2021.09.17 17:42 roberteallenIII Bane 3rd Edition Cards
Does anyone have a link to the character cards for the Bane Venom Overdrive Batbox for 3e? I cannot locate them on the Knight website.
Any help welcomed!
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2021.09.17 17:42 LiamSupremo2210 😳
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2021.09.17 17:42 DimaGames69 can someone please tell me the name of the music in this video clip?
2021.09.17 17:42 Cmm1123 We've gotten "when marketing? Why not more scammy youtubers?" For months and it persists
While at the same time we made top 20 in Binance's valuable builder contest, had advertisements on Binance's live stream, done giveaways and burns, done AMAs with BTS Labs and Binance Smart Chain, given away $25,000 and NFTs on a recent twitter campaign. Partnered with Pulse, partnered with MazerGG, partnered with Turopium. Hosted a series of FIFA tournaments with one of the larger FIFA content creators.
The podcast is currently giving out a $2000+ computer to promote this great avenue that provides weekly GMR updates that ranks well among gaming podcasts across multiple platforms like Spotify and Youtube. If you've been part of the discord you'd see there has been dozens of community tournaments there with thousands in prizes, we have our own Minecraft server, streamers and other podcasters who drop in to chat.
GMR is on the cusp of a 6 month long campaign where the festival of gaming kicks off with $300,000 in prizes and with two weeks to go until that starts, people are coming in relentlessly and asking "when more?" like the team isn't doing anything.
We are inches from the goal line when it comes to the GMR Center and NFT Hub as well. The team is organizing an entire game of chess before they move their first pawn. Don't let yourself be blind to everything they've achieved in the last 5 months just because the price is down.
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2021.09.17 17:42 Ecstatic-Calendar399 #Who_Is_AadiGaneshaगणेश जी की जन्म-मृत्यु होती है, अविनाशी नहीं है। कौन है वो अविनाशी सर्वशक्तिमान आदि गणेश जो तीनों लोकों में प्रवेश करके सबका धारण पोषण करता है। गीता अध्याय 15, श्लोक 17
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2021.09.17 17:42 WanderingSalesWoman What’s the difference b/w red flags and annoyances?
How do you define them for yourself? How do you choose which to pay attention to?
I think I see red flags but they might just be annoying things or maybe yellow flags
Curious how other people think about this
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2021.09.17 17:42 ETC33K-D-McIntyre The Format War, Layering, and Systemic Risk Will Define the Future Landscape of the Blockchain Industry
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2021.09.17 17:42 BenShapiroisadilf Fuck the ag department on my campus
The people who are part of the same major as I am are just so fucking up their own asses about EVERYTHING. It really pisses me off. I have had to suffer for four years with the same people in my classes who just can't get over themselves. All the damn time I have to hear about people talking about themselves, and it's just annoying as hell. I figured I should just get this out because it's been so fucking annoying and I literally come home every day with an enormous headache.
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2021.09.17 17:42 gldoorii How do I view the size of a folder????
I am losing my mind trying to figure out how to view the size of a folder. Dropbox doesn't show the size of anything so I have no clue how much space things are taking up and I need to know how large a single folder is. All the instructions on Dropbox's website say to click on the "size column" or whatever on the left side. There isn't one. How do I do this?
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2021.09.17 17:42 SNAKEY_BRUCE Gonna say I have a “silver spoon life” over this one?
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